Positive Parenting Tip - Discipline Your Child Without Yelling

Written by Cindy NgoUpdated on April 28, 2023

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There are various parenting styles out there. If you are looking for some positive parenting tips for your parenting journey, you definitely should check out this TEDx talk. 
As an experienced social worker who interacted with many children and parents, Páll Ólafsson passionately shares his understanding of how we can help kids grow better in this TEDx talk. He also discusses the need for active listening, good communication, and kind parenting instead of yelling as core principles in positive parenting. Furthermore, Páll Ólafsson also mentioned how our parenting style could affect a child's behavior and self-esteem. Moreover, it might bring negative emotions to a child.
This article highlights some positive parenting techniques from Ólafsson's inspiring talk.

Secrets to discipline your child without yelling

Positive parenting advice

Throughout his TED talk, Páll Ólafsson's message is simple: In order to build a strong bond with our kids, we must listen more and never shout or blame because children don't learn from saying sorry. They learn from getting a chance to fix mistakes and knowing we believe in them.
He also stresses that this way will help kids learn important life skills like communication, problem-solving, teamwork, and good behavior. Páll concludes that avoiding using force, shouting, or blaming is the approach to parenting practices. Such negative actions can push kids away, stop them from learning and affect child development.

Be a positive parent

Páll talks about the power of non-verbal communication. He says 35% of communication is through tone, and 55% is through body language. Parents should know their posture and facial expressions when talking to their kids, as kids can sense the real message. Your tone and choice of words can bring either negative or positive outcomes.
Another key point is that kids learn more from what we do than what we say. Thus, Páll urges parents to show by example how to communicate and solve problems.

Positive parenting strategies

Kids want to be part of the activities, so let them be. While doing it, you should allow them to make mistakes or even make a mess. But that's how they learn things and the best way for you to build a bond with them in the process. 
These are some family activities that you can do with your kids at home, which help you improve your positive parenting skills, as well as make kids feel more comfortable, secure, and loved.

1. Have family meals together 

Modern and busy life drags us further away from each other, and a family meal becomes more difficult. However, this is the simple and best way to strengthen family bonds and helps everyone talk openly. 
Make sure everyone is at the table and keeps gadgets away. You should focus on talking and showing real interest in other family member's life and let them know you really care about them. Besides, you should listen to your child's story attentively and what they went through that day. This family time will help boost the family bond.

2. Create more fun family activities

Fun family activities can make positive parenting easier. Simple things like cooking or playing games can create happy memories and a sense of belonging. Get everyone involved, and highlight teamwork spirit.
Kids might make a mess in the kitchen, but it's okay; let them be a part of the activities. This will not only let children learn but also help you improve your positive discipline in your parenting practices.

3. Speak positively with your kids

Children should feel safe and enjoy their childhood. Talk to them with positive language and avoid adult worries. Discuss what they like, listen, and show you truly understand their feelings. This positive parenting approach will help build trust and helps them talk openly.

4. Be a good listener to your kids

Being a good listener is one part of being positive parents. When your child talks, give your full attention. This way will make children feel safe to share their thoughts and feelings.

Help and support children

Parents should care for their kids and others too. Help kids who are friends, classmates, or neighbors of your child. Show empathy and kindness, and be a role model to them. This way, you help all children grow and succeed


Páll Ólafsson's TEDx talk shows the importance of active listening, good communication skills, and positive parenting in helping our kids grow. By following his advice, we can create a supportive environment where kids can thrive and become happy children.

Biography of the Speaker

Páll Ólafsson is a caring social worker in child protection. He has spent his career helping kids in need. Páll shares his wisdom on building strong parent-child relationships and how to help kids through active listening and positive parenting.
His TEDx talk shows his dedication to making a better future for all kids.

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